“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill
This is what I am telling myself these last few days. Not to repeat myself – the problem I am dealing with is in my previous post. Thing is – I was convinced that it was sorted out. However, it wasn’t. Nevertheless, thankfully to a friend, I was able to intervene much faster this time (thank you Eric ).
These last few days I am trying hard to keep myself on the ground. I keep telling myself that failure is part of every success story. After all, if I am not failing, I am not trying.
I keep reminding myself of the two choices I have now…
To allow this failure defeat me … OR…
To take advantage of it and learn from it.
Funny, I’ve just remembered a quote that I’ve shared recently:
“Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn.” – John C. Maxwell
So, I choose this to be a lesson, not a defeat .
I choose this to be the learning time.
Time to join the most successful people.
Time to get the most out of each failure just as they have.
Time to use the failure to my benefit.
I must admit failure doesn’t feel well at all.
It gives you the feeling of not being capable enough.
Of not knowing enough.
Of not being worthy enough.
So, we have all trained ourselves to avoid failure at all costs.
But… I am learning to see failure as a wonderful way to learn, to stretch, to grow, to develop, to prove myself that I am committed to my goals.
I am learning to see failures as obstacles. And as with any other obstacle… I should go over it. Or around it. But never stop. Never give up. And on the way… to learn what I am capable of.
So, I’ve decided to see this particular failure as a blessing, with few lessons within.
I am glad that I failed quickly, nearly at the beginning.
Yes, it has cost me few unsubscribes, but it could have cost me hundreds of times more if it happened at a later stage of my business.
On the other hand, I am glad that I didn’t fail too quickly, when few unsubscribes would have been my whole list. How discouraging would have that been? I might have never recovered.
I am glad that the fault is not in me. Nor in the resources I am using.
Maybe it is in the system of my service provider, but there is a solution. A little more time consuming but that is an extra time I am willing to invest.
I am glad I learned 2 lessons one after another. After all, failure loses its value if you fail to learn from it.
I am glad that my failure was a bit different both times. I thought I learned from it the first time, but I made a new mistake. Similar – yes, but not the same. It was kind of deception.
I’ve learned to make a list of my learnings from each mistake.
Here is the list of what I’ve learned from this one.
- Not everything is what it seems like (what I see on my browser doesn’t always match with what others see on theirs)
- There should be no short cuts (since time I save at one step might cost me much more time, energy, effort and money in trying to solve and figure out what, when and where went wrong)
- Check everything that can be checked (use available resources to make sure that everything is OK)
I have learned to see the failure as a separate single act outside of my being.
An undesired result that doesn’t have anything to do with my intelligence or my worthiness (I think this post proves it ).
I don’t take it personally.
And I will not let it determine my future.
I’ve failed. I’ve learned my lessons. I am back on track. My mission goes on.
I have learned that failure and fault don’t necessarily go together.
Yes, I made the mistake… Yes, the failure was mine … but it was not my fault.
I am not to blame.
No one is to blame.
It just happened.
And I believe that it had to happen. It was a lesson that I had to learn for a greater purpose. After all, better now than later.
I have learned that there is a better way.
This failure has brought me to a better solution. After reporting the problem, I’ve been advised to use other option, more resistant to changes and faults (I am starting to use it tomorrow, so we’ll see whether it’s going to be as safe as it should be).
So, I don’t feel down about my failure. My ego is hurt a bit, yes… but I’ll survive.
As long as it is a step to the right direction, I choose to embrace the failure. I just need to make sure that I’ve learned my lessons well.
Love to all.